With love also comes forgiveness! To apologize, to ask for forgiveness or to forgive someone can be very difficult, especially when our feelings and emotions are hurt. Still, God calls us to love – to forgive. As mighty women we need to embrace forgiveness.
HOW TO FORGIVE?
If you are a follower of Jesus and you have received Jesus in your heart – the Holy Spirit (God's Spirit) lives in you. It’s a promise; He will help you.
Make a choice.
I know it can be hard, but do it. Don't think right now about how you feel, think on what God has called you to do. He called you to forgive. If He commands you to do it, you can be sure He will also empower you to do it. How do you get empowered to do something?
Ask God for help!
Ask the Holy Spirit to enable you to forgive. To enable means to help you – to empower you - to supernaturally give you the ability to accomplish something you couldn't do all on your own. Ask and you shall receive!
Before you go about doing anything, the conversation should start with God. Ask God to forgive you for holding unforgiveness in your heart. Acknowledge how you feel and forgive the person(s) right away. Say this (mean it in your heart!): “I forgive ____(name the person) ______ for ________(name the reason or situation) ___________ , in the name of Jesus”. Now that you been obedient to God by forgiving them, your own prayers won't be hindered.
Give a gift they don’t deserve!
Think of forgiveness as a gift she or he does not deserve. God did it with you when He forgave all of your sins. By grace you are forgiven, extend that grace to others.
There is no exact way to do this. Sometimes you have to contact (meet in person, call, write, etc.) someone. Other times you can’t because perhaps they have passed away, you don’t know who or where they are or it’s not safe for you to contact them.
Regardless of the way the Lord shows you to do it... let that person know you no longer hold anything against them in your heart. Just say it! I forgive you. Don’t think because you forgave them this means that you need to start or continue a relationship with that person(s). Remember, this is a matter of the heart and about you letting go and letting God do something. Your part is to forgive, leave the rest to God; He will show you if there is more.
You may or may not feel different after forgiving them or asking for forgiveness... that does not mean it did not happen. Remember when it comes to the spiritual, we don’t go by feelings. We go by the truth of God’s Word and what He has to say about the matter.Believe God and not how you feel. Let God do a work of transformation in you. Trust Him! When He said at the Cross: “It is done!” He meant it.
One last thing! Sometimes (a lot of times!) whom you really need to forgive is yourself. Now you know what to do… It works the same way when it is about forgiving you.
Happy Valentine's Day!
Love you, CC
SEE WHAT GOD HAS TO SAY ABOUT LOVE AND FORGIVENESS:
Colossians 3:13 AMPC - Ephesians 4:31-32 MSG - Matthew 5:23-24 MSG
Matthew 6:14-15 NIV - 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 NKJV
Love never fails... and forgiveness always gives freedom to the heart! Mainly ours...